How did a Michigander and Marylander end up in NYC? Sometimes I still ask myself this very question.
Ryan and I have lived in 3 different states in the 6 years that we have been married. We started out in Farmington Hills, Michigan, which is where Ryan found his first job after graduating with his Bachelor’s Degree. We lived there for just over 2 years when a new opportunity in Baltimore, Maryland opened up. One big factor in the move to Maryland was that we would be moving to the area where my parents lived. They kindly offered to let us stay with them for a little as we figured out what steps we should take next. After a few months in Maryland, Ryan began to realize that this job was not what was promised to him. He then began exploring other opportunities, and a job in NYC contacted him. Throughout the initial phase of the interviewing process, the location for this job was up in the air. Toward the very end of the interview process, the recruiter told Ryan that the location for this job would be NYC and that it wouldn’t be negotiable. This new information was tough for me to swallow. The thought of moving to NYC was the furthest thing from appealing to me. Frankly, it terrified me.
With each job change, Ryan has valued my input significantly. He has always encouraged me to be honest with him about how I was feeling about each opportunity and took the time to listen to my concerns and fears. He never once has forced a move on me, and for that I am extremely grateful.
This move to NYC was no different than the others. All I had to do was say, “No!” No other explanation would have been needed. However, through a lot of prayer and tears, God made it very clear that this was the next right step for us.
Now after living in NYC for nearly 3 years, I can’t imagine what life would have been like if I would have said no. These last 3 years have been truly unforgettable in more ways than one. I have been stretched to my limit on more than one occasion, yet I continue to find that I am stronger than I thought and can handle more than I thought I could. My confidence has grown leaps and bounds since moving to the city. I am forced to come up with creative solutions to accomplish simple tasks almost on a weekly basis. My life looks nothing like I thought it would and yet I couldn’t be more thankful. There is always something going on here, which means there is always something new to see and explore.
As Ryan and I look ahead to our next adventure and prepare to move away from this city we have called home for the last 3 years, I am struck with the realization that NYC has changed me. I am not the same person that I was when I first arrived in October of 2016. That person was scared, fearful, and unsure of herself. Each new day slowly transformed that girl into someone who was confident, strong, and more dependent on the Lord than ever before.
There are too many lessons to count from our time in NYC, but the one lesson that has really stuck with me is that it is up to you to choose whether you will embrace each new opportunity or fight it.
This is why I’m glad I didn’t say no.